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The Push & Pull Deck

DIGITAL REFLECTION DECK

The Push & Pull Deck

$24

24 reflections on chasing, retreating, and the loop that forms between two people, so you can finally step out of it.

This deck is for you if

  • You overthink unanswered texts, or feel smothered when someone gets close
  • You recognize an anxious-avoidant cycle in your relationships

What's inside

  • 24 reflections in 3 parts: The Chase, The Retreat, The Dance
  • Write-in space on every page
  • Bonus: How to Use Your Deck guide

Instant digital download. A beautifully designed PDF you can read on your phone, tablet or computer, or print at home. No app or account needed.

For self-reflection only; not a substitute for therapy. Digital product: all sales final.

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Questions, answered.

Do I need to know my attachment style?

Not at all. Every reflection works for anyone, whether you've taken a dozen quizzes or have never heard the term. The questions help you notice your patterns in your own words.

Which deck should I start with?

The Undone Deck is the best starting point: it covers the whole journey. If one theme is calling you, a themed deck goes deeper on it. The Complete Collection includes everything and saves you $30.

How do I receive my deck?

Right after checkout, you'll get an email with your download links. You can also download from your order confirmation page. If you don't see the email, check your spam or promotions folder.

What format is it?

A high-quality PDF designed to read beautifully on a phone, tablet or computer. Every reflection page also has write-in lines if you'd like to print it.

How should I use it?

Find a quiet 15 minutes, read one reflection, write what comes up, then sit with the 'go deeper' question. Every order includes a bonus guide with several ways to practice, alone or with a partner.

Can I use it with my partner?

Yes. Many reflections are powerful when you each answer separately and then share. The bonus guide explains how.

Is this a replacement for therapy?

No. Undone decks are self-reflection tools, not therapy. They can be a wonderful companion to working with a therapist, and if something brings up more than you can hold, we encourage reaching out for professional support.

Can I get a refund?

Because decks are delivered instantly as digital files, all sales are final. If your download doesn't work or you were charged twice, email us and we'll make it right.

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